Are you ready to rumble?

I love that old expression “I’m a lover not a fighter”- not because I think it’s particularly true or profound or even that I think it makes any real sense, but because I kind of think it’s one of the most famous non-oxymoronic oxymoron’s that have ever been created.

You see I’m 27 and single. VERY single. For the first few years of my teen life/young adult life- it was by choice. Until I met this girl who I actually believed was “the one” and it all changed.

I’m gutted now though because even though I don’t believe in “The one”- She was pretty darn close. She ticked all my boxes (not to be misread as “tickled my boxers”)- Firstly she loved Jesus, She could sing, dance, perform, was deep, funny, fun, silly and flippin’ beautiful.

We had talked to each other about our feelings and agreed we like each other- however, time worked it’s magic and we didn’t end up pursuing it any further.

The point is small.

To be a lover- requires you to be a fighter. At first instance you must be a fighter if you want to go from the “Non-dating” phase to the “dating” phase. Or you must fight to go from the “friend” stage to the “Lover” stage.

There are times when other peoples vie for her/his affections and you must fight for it. Work for it.

In my instance of Girl unnamed, We really cared for each other- I should have fought for her, harder, stronger, with more gusto than I did. She deserved it. With everything in me I know she deserved it. But that ship has sailed, that opportunity has passed, that chance to fight for this woman who captivated my heart has long since gone.

Learn the lesson from me before you have to learn it for yourself, if you love someone- don’t wait, don’t sit and ponder, fight for her, give it everything you can- because she’s worth it.

So what are you waiting for?

Enter the ring.

Prepare for the fight of your life.

It may be painful at times.

But worth every piece of that agony to win the heart of the one you care for.

I would like to amend the timeless phrase “I’m a lover not a fighter” and suggest we now start saying instead “To be a lover, is to be a fighter”.

Are you ready to rumble?